The majority of people who I visit or visit us automatically take their shoes off when entering the house. I have one relative who refuses to do it when she visits. Do you think we are unfair to ask her to take her shoes off. She makes areall fuss everytime and rain or shine wears shoes in our house!. My thoughts are that shoes are for outside!.
Same rule in my home- They should respect your wishes- They would expect the same if it were a rule in their home. Just let her know that this is how you would like your space to be respected.
I think that people should respec the rules of the house ... some people like to keep their carpets clean & some people really dont like feet! of corse there are exceptions .. im sure there are some foot conditions which require the wearing of shoes ..but try asking her very gently & politely ...its certainly not unfair to ask tht of her!
I hate when people do that sh.t Maybe she has really, really bad athlete's foot. Floors are made for walking on, and that is really what you should consider when picking out a floor, rugs, or carpet.
as a smoker,i dont like family /friends smoking in my house they can smoke by the back doors but not in my house.so yes follow the rules.
Absolutley! - She should respect your house rules.
Maybe it would help if you bought some slippers, and when she comes you can offer her them to wear around the house.
This is a common practice in places like Japan and Russia where it is the norm to take dirty shoes off before entering a house and changing them for "house shoes" to stop your socks getting worn out or dirty.
Hope it helps
how disrespectful i would'nt allow that relative in your house
Maybe you should take a clue from the Japanese culture. They provide slippers at the door for you to wear while inside....
Darn tootin right. Your house, your rules.
Get her a cute (tacky?) pair of slip on house shoes, with the fluffy feathers across the toe, no heel, her favorite! color. Proudly present them to her, "for her comfort" of course, we Loooove you. Remember to remove tongue from cheek, before biting down.
Buy her a pair of slippers let her try them on and then ask her to leave them on
when she leaves ask her for the slippers and tell her their her for your next viest, she now knows what the slippers are for HER on her next time around just gve them to her.
I know what you are saying I don't wear shoes in the house and I always take my shoes off when visiting other peoples houses but my mother-in-law never takes her shoes off and it really pees me off cos I always take my shoes off when I go in her house...Its a lack of respect for other peoples property!
No, I've got a sister-in-law like you.
I suppose if it is your house you should make the rules but you should also consider the reasons others may have to be reluctant to follow them. For instance, I will not visit someone who makes that particular rule because I have very sweaty feet and worry about leaving damp footprints across the floor!!!
How would you feel if someone you wanted to visit required everyone to remove other items of clothing, say their shirts and blouses? It would certainly be within their right to create such a rule but would likely cut down dramatically on the amount of company they would have.
I think if it is your house, then you make the rules. Especially if you have kids and are trying to set an example, you can't have one rule for one and one for another.
Just ask politely remove them, maybe have some slippers on hand to offer?
I would not dream of asking anyone to remove their shoes when visiting our house. I think it is the height of rudeness and frankly pathetic. Carpets and hard surfaced flooring can easily be cleaned these days so just what is the problem?
your house your rules. (according to my parents). If she won't take them off don't let her in.
She will have a problem if she visited Sweden, Japan, China, Singapore, etc., where no one wears shoes inside the house because you never know where shoes have been. Your relative may have a problem with her feet, e.g. smelly, bunions, ingrowing toenails, fungal infection, etc., that may be a source of embarrassment to her. Since women tend not to wear socks, her feet will be exposed. One of my friends provide guests with indoor slippers. But this might make her feel she is being singled out unless you do it with great tact and a lot of light touch.
I agree with louloube. But, there are those people who refuse to obey rules (control freaks.). These people hate to buckle up their seat belt, etc. They take every rule personally, and as an attack on their freedom. Buy her a pair of slippers, and figure out a jovial way to keep her at the door, while she puts the slippers on.
Shoes are for the outside, but there are exceptions. Handicapped individuals, those with special shoes, etc. Don't make this a "I am right and you are wrong" issue. Just look at it from a different angle. It isn't about you; it is about her "rights". Talking about why she feels that taking her shoes off is an insult to her might get a good conversation going. There is a compromise; it just has to be found. And just think what a wonderful skill you will have learned for life.
I think it's only fair and respectful that people should obey your rules.
